All Relationships ARE Created Equal

{2:14 minutes to read} Marriage is many things to many people. In the past, it was an economic alliance between families, for both nobility and commoners. Giving birth often resulted in the death of the mother, infant, or both and life expectancy, in general, was dramatically shorter, and so most marriages were shorter as well.

All Relationships ARE Created Equal by Fabienne Swartz

In today’s day and age, most of us are fortunate enough to marry for love, but in some countries, arranged marriages are still the norm. Ideally, a marriage based on love can survive 40 or 50 years — but let’s say the marriage lasted only 10 years — does that mean the relationship is a failure?

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It Starts with a Kiss

It Starts with a Kiss by Fabienne Swartz

{2:57 minutes to read} I love coaching because it exposes me to so many excellent people, both as my clients and as my colleagues. In fact, it was when I was speaking with a colleague that she introduced what I thought was a simple way to improve people’s married lives. It’s about the couple kissing passionately every day — and not a peck on the lips, but an intense kiss for at least 30 seconds. In other words, a “French” kiss (full disclosure: I am from Belgium and we just call them kisses).

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Did You Forget About Your Own Career During Your Marriage?

Did You Forget About Your Own Career During Your Marriage? by Fabienne Swartz

{3:15 minutes to read} Every divorce is unique. On one end of town, there may be a family struggling to make ends meet, who literally can’t afford to start the divorce process. On “the other side of the tracks,” there may be another family worth millions, thanks to the husband’s brilliant career, which was only made possible by the wife’s sacrifices. Unfortunately, the comfort that she enjoys is more like getting renovations done on a house that she’s renting; it may be nice while she lives there, but in the case of a divorce, she would have to move out and the landlord (her husband) will enjoy the spoils of her toils. 

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The Power of the Purse: Financial Abuse in Marriage

The Power of the Purse Financial Abuse in Marriage by Fabienne Swartz

{5:05 minutes to read} In a previous blog, I discussed the importance of knowing what you are signing when filing a joint tax return. While devastating, and potentially life altering, tax fraud is only one facet of financial abuse. In a large context, financial abuse can be found in every demographic, in every socioeconomic stratum. 

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What Divorcees of High Earners Should Know about Alimony

What Divorcees of High Earners Should Know about Alimony by Fabienne Swartz

{3:50 minutes to read} When a lesser monied spouse divorces a high-earning spouse, they will likely get $150,000 a year or more in alimony.

These lesser monied spouses may not be able to start work right away. They need to heal and settle; it’s a process that can take the better part of a year or longer. When they go back to work, they probably won’t make the same level of salary as they did before the marriage. Things have changed since they were last in the workforce. By a fair estimate, they might make $50,000–$80,000, even after having completed continuing education.

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Online Dating for Divorcees

Online Dating for Divorcees by Fabienne Swartz

{3:35 minutes to read} When women get divorced, they face a lot of fears, from financial (“How will I pay the bills on my own?”) to social (“What if my married friends stop inviting me over?”). One particular fear is the thought of having to start dating again.

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