Going Through a Divorce? Don’t Forget to Take a Vacation!

Going Through a Divorce? Don’t Forget to Take a Vacation! by Fabienne Swartz

{2:15 minutes to read} There is a mistaken belief that if you are going through a divorce, your life should immediately change for the worse. This is simply not realistic — or very humane, if you ask me. People going through divorce are human beings with needs, including the need to vacation. The break from the pressure, anxiety, and stress that vacations offer is often a powerful antidote to the stress of divorce.

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Did You Forget About Your Own Career During Your Marriage?

Did You Forget About Your Own Career During Your Marriage? by Fabienne Swartz

{3:15 minutes to read} Every divorce is unique. On one end of town, there may be a family struggling to make ends meet, who literally can’t afford to start the divorce process. On “the other side of the tracks,” there may be another family worth millions, thanks to the husband’s brilliant career, which was only made possible by the wife’s sacrifices. Unfortunately, the comfort that she enjoys is more like getting renovations done on a house that she’s renting; it may be nice while she lives there, but in the case of a divorce, she would have to move out and the landlord (her husband) will enjoy the spoils of her toils. 

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Before You Sign a Joint Tax Return, Be Aware of What You’re Signing!

Before You Sign a Joint Tax Return, Be Aware of What You’re Signing! by Fabienne Swartz

{3:55 minutes to read} Tax time is a great prompt—for some people the only prompt—to think about finances. I have found that many of my clients actually know very little about the marital finances, trusting instead that their spouse will make appropriate decisions. Unfortunately, women who do that are putting themselves at risk for a variety of reasons: 

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Hidden Figures: When the Numbers Tell You Something You Don’t Want to Hear

Hidden Figures: When the Numbers Tell You Something You Don’t Want to Hear by Fabienne Swartz

{3:30 minutes to read} A friend of mine has a problem. She is in the middle of a divorce, yet she remains wedded to a lifestyle she can no longer afford. The bulk of the expenses she is claiming are what I would consider unnecessary, like:

  • Retaining a full-time housekeeper;
  • Outfitting her children with designer clothes;
  • Driving a high-end, German car;
  • Grocery shopping at Whole Foods; and 
  • Monthly clothing budget in excess of what many people earn in a month.

Divorce is difficult, and one of the most difficult things about it is figuring out how to pay for two households when there was once only one. In 99% of divorces, the discretionary cash decreases as a result, but that does not mean the quality of life needs to decrease.

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Jokes About Money Undercut Women’s Authority

Jokes About Money Undercut Women’s Authority by Fabienne Swartz

{3:07 minutes to read} In a recent article titled “Why Men Need To Stop Making This Joke About Women,” author Vanessa McGrady sheds light on a problem that is often covered up with uncomfortable laughter and avoiding eye contact. She relays the story of attending a special event where a man addressed the room for a toast and began to make jokes about how his wife is so good at spending “his” money. McGrady alleges that this sort of talk is bad for women, men, and children alike. 

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Having Your Day in Court and Eating It, Too

Having Your Day In Court And Eating It, Too by Fabienne Swartz

{2:56 minutes to read} Television shows and movies love to show characters who want nothing more than to have their “day in court.” Usually, they have been wronged in some way, and by taking their issue to court, they are able to level the playing field in a spectacular fashion and win the day.

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What Divorcees of High Earners Should Know about Alimony

What Divorcees of High Earners Should Know about Alimony by Fabienne Swartz

{3:50 minutes to read} When a lesser monied spouse divorces a high-earning spouse, they will likely get $150,000 a year or more in alimony.

These lesser monied spouses may not be able to start work right away. They need to heal and settle; it’s a process that can take the better part of a year or longer. When they go back to work, they probably won’t make the same level of salary as they did before the marriage. Things have changed since they were last in the workforce. By a fair estimate, they might make $50,000–$80,000, even after having completed continuing education.

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Online Dating for Divorcees

Online Dating for Divorcees by Fabienne Swartz

{3:35 minutes to read} When women get divorced, they face a lot of fears, from financial (“How will I pay the bills on my own?”) to social (“What if my married friends stop inviting me over?”). One particular fear is the thought of having to start dating again.

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How Not Seeking Legal Advice Can Cost You Money

How Not Seeking Legal Advice Can Cost You Money by Fabienne Swartz

{2:35 minutes to read} Not seeking legal advice can be costly…

In recent years, I have heard several accounts of women who decided not to seek legal advice before signing their divorce settlement agreement negotiated in mediation. Without exception, the outcome was a lopsided deal. Others have consulted me stating they were ready to sign but had not yet put pen to paper.

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Know What to Expect When You’re Expecting to Divorce

Know What to Expect When You’re Expecting to Divorce by Fabienne Swartz

{3:36 minutes to read} The divorce process takes time, patience and expertise.

If you are considering divorcing your spouse, your first step should be to consult with an attorney who is skilled in family law. By listening to your unique situation, he or she can apply years of accumulated experience to your advantage.

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