Are You a Helicopter Parent?

{2:38 minutes to read} The Netflix series Stranger Things is stoking 1980s nostalgia around the country. In addition to the hair, clothes, and popular culture references, there is another forgotten aspect to ‘80s life on full display: kids playing unsupervised. 

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Text-Mess: It’s “What?!?!” For Dinner

Text-Mess: It’s “What?!?!” For Dinner by Fabienne Swartz

{2:56 minutes to read} You’ve heard it before, and probably even said it: Today’s kids are not interacting with each other in the real world enough. They’ve replaced playing outside with their friends with playing on the computer, XBox, iPad, and who knows what else. When they communicate with each other, it’s through text messages. I feel like there’s a whole skill set of discerning other people’s moods that has atrophied in recent times. 

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It Starts with a Kiss

It Starts with a Kiss by Fabienne Swartz

{2:57 minutes to read} I love coaching, because it exposes me to so many excellent people, both as my clients and as my colleagues. In fact, it was when I was speaking with a colleague that she introduced what I thought was a simple way to improve people’s married lives. It’s about the couple kissing passionately every day — and not a peck on the lips, but an intense kiss for at least 30 seconds. In other words, a “French” kiss (full disclosure: I am from Belgium and we just call them kisses).

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Did You Do Your Homework?

Did You Do Your Homework? by Fabienne Swartz

{2:46 minutes read} Coaching is about moving forward and improving your life. If there’s something that could be working better in your life, the idea is to figure out how. In order for coaching to help you discover the how, you have to work at it — and the more work you put into the search, the more benefits you will reap.

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Off to College They Go

Off to College They Go by Fabienne Swartz

{2:14 minutes to read} Every August, anxious parents see their children off to college. In addition to learning about the psychological motivations of Grendel from Beowulf, they will also be learning about life. And that means they will become more independent from us, their parents.

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Going Through a Divorce? Don’t Forget to Take a Vacation!

Going Through a Divorce? Don’t Forget to Take a Vacation! by Fabienne Swartz

{2:15 minutes to read} There is a mistaken belief that if you are going through a divorce, your life should immediately change for the worse. This is simply not realistic — or very humane, if you ask me. People going through divorce are human beings with needs, including the need to vacation. The break from the pressure, anxiety, and stress that vacations offer is often a powerful antidote to the stress of divorce.

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Letting Go: How Forgiving Others is a Gift to Yourself

Letting Go: How Forgiving Others is a Gift to Yourself by Fabienne Swartz

{2:06 minutes to read} Recently I was talking to someone who was having an emotional couple of weeks. After listening to her for some time, I saw something that I see often in people: not being able to let go and forgive.

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Did You Forget About Your Own Career During Your Marriage?

Did You Forget About Your Own Career During Your Marriage? by Fabienne Swartz

{3:15 minutes to read} Every divorce is unique. On one end of town, there may be a family struggling to make ends meet, who literally can’t afford to start the divorce process. On “the other side of the tracks,” there may be another family worth millions, thanks to the husband’s brilliant career, which was only made possible by the wife’s sacrifices. Unfortunately, the comfort that she enjoys is more like getting renovations done on a house that she’s renting; it may be nice while she lives there, but in the case of a divorce, she would have to move out and the landlord (her husband) will enjoy the spoils of her toils. 

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New York’s Dollar-For-Dollar Room and Board Credit for College Students

New York’s Dollar-For-Dollar Room and Board Credit for College Students by Fabienne Swartz

{4:27 minutes to read} I have long been suspicious of the way New York considers the issue of college room and board as it relates to child support: Currently, the non-custodial parent is permitted to deduct the entire amount of college room and board paid. This is known as a “dollar-for-dollar” credit, which gets offset from child support payments while that child is attending classes. And that amounts to the custodial parent footing the bill for the child’s food and shelter in college.

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Do Your Current Work Conditions Match Your Expectations?

Do Your Current Work Conditions Match Your Expectations by Fabienne Swartz

{3:32 minutes to read} After graduating from college, women approach their emergent careers with vigor and determination—eager to advance, become breadwinners, and pursue their passions. Somewhere along the career trajectory, many women also yearn to start a family.

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